Posted 3 months ago

The entire genre of woe-is-me-my-child-is-disabled-and-I-wish-they-were-dead-because-disabled-people-are-worthless is sickening. But this is a new low. This charming man is the father of two autistic children, and you can get his book on Amazon (here’s a hint: don’t.)

If you’d rather your children were dead than autistic, you have no business having children.

If you have autistic children and you write a book about how you wish they had cancer, you’re literally the scum of the earth.

If you excuse books like this as ‘just telling the hard truths’ or as understandable ‘letting off steam’, you are missing the fact that caretakers  murder their disabled children far, far too often. If we keep saying it’s normal and comprehensible and acceptable to talk about how much you wish your disabled children were dead, we’re not just helping scum parents like Michael Alan feel good; we’re encouraging murderers. 

Posted 3 months ago
Honestly, it's kind of gross that that person thinks some of those people should be included. Light is a mass murderer, yuno also kills people without a second thought, as does alucared. L might be off the hook, but this person clearly does not understand what this month is for. All of these characters give mental illness a bad name, and that's the opposite of what this month is for.
Anonymous asked



oh goodness. thank you for the heads up!

to the anon who was asking: it’s probably best you don’t do those characters, excepting sherlock. i’m sure your intentions are nothing but good, and i don’t want you to feel demonized for liking these characters or shows, but i think we’d really rather steer clear of such violent characters, as mental illness is already pathologized as being violent and abusive.

i do apologize, and i hope that you understand. we do hope, too, that you’ll still participate in DF with characters such as sherlock.

- BF

I’m excited for this event, and I really admire what you’re trying to do here - but, respectfully, I really don’t think that this is okay. 

First, as disabled people, we’re not exactly spoiled for choice when it comes to representation. The characters the original anon was asking about seem to coded as having psychotic symptoms and/or are frequently read as autistic, and it’s really, really common for villains to be coded as neurodivergent - much more frequently than heroes or more ethically neutral characters. When I identify with those characters, that’s usually not the only reason, but being able to see myself in them, when I can’t anywhere else, is important. They may be violent and abusive to fictional people, but they’ve done a lot of good for at least one real person. 

And even if there were plenty of non-stereotyped, heroic neurodivergent characters, it would still be okay to identify with villains. This thread has more context, but the basic point is that there are lots of reasons why any given person would find those characters compelling and personally meaningful. It’s not about associating violence with mental illness or neurodivergence, it’s about relating to a character who happens to have those traits. And, yes, the fact that neurodivergent-coded characters frequently are violent is a symptom of our ableist society. But it’s not fair to penalize fans of those characters for the toxic environment in which those characters were created.

The onus is not on us to give mental illness a good name. Ever. Of course, combating the stigma of violence that surrounds (this specific type of) mental illness is important work. But it’s not the purpose of an event that is by and for disabled people to celebrate the characters who mean something to them. If someone identifies with a character and wants to create fanwork celebrating that, the stigma that they already face in their daily life is not a reason to prevent them from doing so.

And, by the way - Sherlock (I assume you mean the BBC version) is violent, as well as emotionally closed off, impersonal, etc. He displays a massive amount of ableist stereotypes. And disabled people relate to him. And that’s completely okay. Better than okay, even. There’s no arbitrary dividing line you can draw between the characters listed to say that some of them are nice enough to count as representation, and some of them aren’t. The only thing that matters is what they do for their audience. 

Fictional villains harm fictional people. Harassing and shaming the disabled people who relate to those villains harms real people. 

Posted 4 months ago


"Your days are numbered!"


The set of all days is countable.


Your days, like everyone else’s, are numbered.

Posted 4 months ago
Aspergers by definition lack empathy and the ability to relate to others. So yeah I would think that would make a person more prone to hurting others. I see lots of defensive attitudes in your blog sort of saying that "the mentally ill" are somehow less prone to violence than is depicted in the media. But if someone kills a bunch of people and is mentally ill then of course the media is going to report in. A better question is why there is no help for these people rather than "not true"
Anonymous asked

This response is awesome, and I want to add one thing:


Many people with Asperger’s do not lack empathy. If you listen to anyone who has Asperger’s, you will hear them fight this stereotype over and over. Often we have trouble identifying and articulating emotions, but many of us are possessed of a strong desire to help and be kind to others, even if we aren’t totally aware of how to do it.

Incidentally, there are people with Asperger’s who do lack empathy, and they deserve the same care and respect as everyone else.

Your derisive, obnoxious tone unsettles me. While your intention of telling me I should be focused on people getting help, I despise your smug, pretentious attitude and your implication that autistic people are inherently dangerous.

You are generalizing people on the spectrum with, it appears, very little knowledge of the vast variety of things being on the spectrum actually means.

I fight against the stereotype of mentally ill individuals and autistic individuals being portrayed as dangerous precisely because it hinders so many people from getting the help we need. Because after breaking down and confessing I have Asperger’s to someone, they began treating me as though I was dangerous, even though nothing else about me had changed—even though I was still a very shy, kind, fearful individual. Because people treated me like a diagnosis instead of a person. So yes, I do ask why there is not more help for people, but I also ask of allistics, ‘please stop being afraid of us when you don’t even try to understand who we are’. 

People are so keen to pin violence on one thing—be it mental illness or Asperger’s—without pausing to examine the web of factors which contribute to such violence. That is what I rebel against. 

I am disinclined to comment further on this subject because I really do not feel like subjecting myself to more scrutiny and hatred than I usually face by allistics. I am going to stop talking now.

(Also, FYI, calling us ‘Aspergers’ is offensive. Not that you seem to care about being offensive, as it were.)

(Anon said): but if someone kills a bunch of people and is mentally ill then of course the media is going to report in.

Fuck. That. The media is not powerless. The media is not just telling the facts. The media chooses which facts to emphasize, which facts to ignore, which facts to elevate to headlines and which to bury on page 3. And they are accountable for those choices, and they are held accountable for those choices by us, when we object to their framing of the facts.

The media could have chosen to emphasize that this man was a violent misogynist who was taught to believe women owed him sex, and asked why it is that our society enables those messages. The media could have chosen to emphasize the fact that he openly announced his intent to commit these crimes online. The media chooses their narrative, and choosing narratives that stigmatize the mentally ill and the neuroatypical is wrong, and harmful, and something we can criticize them for.

Posted 5 months ago


"average american supports military intervention in the middle east" factoid actualy just statistical error. average american has 0 interest in military intervention. President Georg, who lives in texas & really wanted to fulfil his father’s legacy, is an outlier adn should not have been counted

Posted 5 months ago

We interrupt this morning’s Disney programming for a new segment that I’m going to call “If This Isn’t Obvious To You, You Need To Find A New Line Of Work Immediately.”

I heard a story yesterday that I haven’t been able to shake, mostly because it’s not the first time that I’ve heard it. A support person - someone who has chosen to make a career working with autistic children - took a nonspeaking child’s communication device away from him because she didn’t want to give him what he was requesting. The last time that I heard a similar story, the aide had taken the device as punishment.

You wouldn’t duct tape a typically developing child’s mouth or tie down the hands of a deaf child who uses sign language to communicate, and you do not, under any circumstances on God’s green Earth have the right take a communication device away from its user.

You do not EVER block access to a human being’s voice. Ever.

Diary of a Mom Facebook page, 5/18/14 (via ausomekids)
Posted 5 months ago





Pretty sure I already reblogged this but what the hell.  Love this campaign.  

campaign bringing awareness to homeless youth

I adore this campaign so much.

Okay just going to inform people about being young and homeless for a second

In most states, it is a status offense to run away from home, and in most states your parents can drag you home kicking and screaming.

46% leave because of physical abuse.

17% leave because of sexual abuse.

50% of homeless youth were kicked out, or their parent/guardian didn’t care/try to stop them when they left.

40% of the homeless in America are under 18.

Okay, so obviously in trying to fix homelessness, fixing youth homelessness is very important. But our society is completely restricting of youth being independent. A youth who is unhappy at home has very few options.

A youth is restricted from getting jobs without parental permission (and of course few homeless teens can get that). Without the option of getting a legal job, youth are forced into prostitution (survival sex), drug selling, and theft.

A yout cannot rent an apartment without parental permission.

Most hotels and motels will not let somebody under 18 book a room.

A youth cannot even get medical help without parental permission (even if they could afford it).

To house a homeless youth for more than 24 hours is a felony.

To aid a homeless youth in finding housing (besides a homeless shelter or their parent’s/guardian’s residence) is illegal.

Even shelters place 48 hour restrictions on youth without parental permission.

40% of homeless youth are LGBTQ.

Our misguided belief that these restrictions help youth- that these kids will go home and all will be well- is naive and harmful. It is ridiculous that we place parental rights and our notion that kids shouldn’t leave their parents above youth safety.

(Source: likeafieldmouse)

Posted 5 months ago
Posted 5 months ago


so I have a passionate hatred for all books in which the elderly, as soon as their physical condition starts to deteriorate, cheerfully decide their time has come and choose to die

because that’s a society where physical deterioration is shameful, where able-bodiedness is the same thing as value, where honor and dignity are tied up in removing yourself from existence once you don’t measure up

and if you want to tell me that world is a safe place for disabled people I am going to call you a liar

Posted 5 months ago


Your statistical power is WEAK, your effect size is SMALL, you will not survive the winter. 

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